Being in PhD is like being in a toxic situationship (10 years ago, it was juxtaposed to marriage but since I am single, I’m placing it on the post modern dating labelling)– whatever narrative, in the pessimistic standpoint
-You chase attention (of respondents, of participants, of important people that would have valuable contribution in your work)
– You enter many no label relationships — friends can be lbeled as advisers, consultants, ka talking stage (pag kelangan mo lang ng emotional trashcan)
– You try (and feel tortured) to read between lines and seen zones kapag me tinanong ka related sa thesis mo
-Small, constructive comments on improvements reads 10x more heartbreaking to you and then you enter the 5 stages of grief (for at least two weeks) before you can write that one damn sentence again. After typing one sentence, you sleep.
-You tend to overthink. A LOT. and it resonates sometimes with your other social interactions
-You question time and again if it is something worth pursuing
-You tend to eat and eat (your sorrows and uncertainties away)
– no matter how big your “support group” is, most of the time, you feel alone.
Of course, these can be turned into purely, optimistic standpoint like God’s perfect timing and other rainbows and butterflies narratives (or in George Kelly, the other construct– the positive would not exist without the negative).
Looking back, ang layo na ng narating ko when it comes to dealing with emotions and people.
Hindi ko naman plano sumuko. Gusto ko lang i-rant para makasulat na ako.